Suggestions for a concerned husband/father?
Hi JR - you don't know me but I've been reading your blog at least weekly for a long long time, and I was wondering if you could help me with something, either direct over email or even a post about it to gather thoughts from your other readers.Okay guys and gals, now it is your turn. I know a few of you have been in pretty much this same situation. What works, and just as important, what does not.
I'll save you a lot of the details, but shortly after I got married in 2002 I became very interested in the philosophy and culture of armed self-defense and educated myself on what I'm convinced is the most precious of all human rights and the origins of American protection of that right. The major impetus behind this sudden interest was that I never feared as much for my own safety as I found myself fearing for that of my wife (and future kids, now 2 years old with another on the way). I took to heart the principle that I'm responsible for her safety more than I ever did with my own. I now own (and have since early 2004) a handgun for personal defense and plan on applying for a CCW permit now that I'm a Texan (having fled the People's Republic of Kalifornia last year for San Antonio). I've even written a bit (letters to the editor and such), see my personal site to check some of that stuff out (though it's a bit old - I've gotten a few letters printed in the San Antonio Express-News that haven't made it there yet, though they're on my blog).
What I need help with is getting my wife to recognize that it's even more imperative for her to a) become familiar with the gun we already keep in the house so she can use it if I'm gone and b) become comfortable with shooting and owning her own so she can protect herself and our kids (not to mention that I want to pass this down to them as they get older). She's shown resistance (especially when I bought our pistol - I thought I had her blessing but apparently she thought we were still discussing it) to learning anything for herself, and a big part of that seems to stem from the fact that she was mugged at gunpoint once (in not-very-big-city CA). That incident seems to have made her more suspicious about guns rather than more suspicious about the characters she might need a gun to deal with.
Can you (or your readers) give me any helpful conversation starters or avenues to take to try and get her to have an open mind about this?
Thanks, and keep up the great writing!